Dear Guy That Holds the Door Too Long,
I've been running into you a lot lately. I mean, first, let me just say that I appreciate the gesture. It's really nice of you to try and be considerate and I always feel somehow worthy and attractive and tons of sappy stuff when people bother to show me a bit of courtesy.
However, I demand that you cease and desist. I'm not trying to put you down-- this is for both of us. I know how awkward you must feel when you realize that I'm way farther away and a far slower walker than you anticipated and that you're just going to have to stand there and look pleasant yet nonchalant for a whole twenty seconds. Unless I run. And you know I feel obligated to do so, and of course it looks stupid. I look stupid trotting eagerly up to the door just so I can thank you and save us both some time. You feel the way I look.
I'm not sure how to say this but-- and I know this seems to go against all preconceived notions of chivalry-- let the door go. Door-holding is nice, but I'm fully capable of opening it myself. You don't need to wait for me. I will be okay. In fact, I want to open it myself. Whenever I see you walking just a little too far ahead of me in close proximity to a building I start to panic. For the love of God, just shrug at me and go inside. I'll appreciate it, I promise.
After all, nothing could make you any worse than Guy That Doesn't Say Thanks When I Hold The Door.
xoxo,
Vanessa
What's one of your politeness pet peeves?
6 comments:
ohh I ranted about this about a year ago. There was a guy in my history class that was very vocal and asked really stupid questions for a college-level history course all the time. He would occaisionally try to strike up conversation with me (something I don't really do with idiots in class) and I avoided him at all times. One time, I was walking toward the classroom and he was fifty feet ahead of me, and he stood and held the door. Because I'm a brat, I about-faced and walked the opposite direction to the far door (2 doors to the classroom) to avoid him. Nothing irritates me more than the man who holds a door in an attempt to kiss up to a lady. lol. /holla random rant
ohh I ranted about this about a year ago. There was a guy in my history class that was very vocal and asked really stupid questions for a college-level history course all the time. He would occaisionally try to strike up conversation with me (something I don't really do with idiots in class) and I avoided him at all times. One time, I was walking toward the classroom and he was fifty feet ahead of me, and he stood and held the door. Because I'm a brat, I about-faced and walked the opposite direction to the far door (2 doors to the classroom) to avoid him. Nothing irritates me more than the man who holds a door in an attempt to kiss up to a lady. lol. /holla random rant
I HATE this. hate hate hate. It is so awkward and I always run and I feel like this whole thing could be avoided if they just go ahead and walk through and close it.
The worst part is, I think a lot of the men who do this think they are being soooo polite and friendly. No!
This is so true! I always feel like I have to run up to the door when someone does this, and I don't want to do that. I'd like to just take my merry old time and stroll!
Sydnie
www.takemeouttotherunway.blogspot.com
I completely agree to an extent... its really annoying when people hold open the door for you but your quite a distance from them. It always makes me feel guilty like I should walk faster. Plus sometimes guys who do this are just complete prats and do it because they think its a good way to kiss up to girls. However, their are exceptions to this rule. I think you can genuinely tell when a guy holds open the door for a girl and he means it. I have some guy friends who do this not only for girls but guys as well. They are just a classy, and rare breed of men though. Although, this isn't to say that women can't hold open doors for men/women either.... I just think its more expected of men to do this. :)
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