Monday, May 17, 2010

On Tucking In


[ EDIT: This was originally a photo I found on Flickr but.... Though I usually don't put pictures of myself up here, I was able to get around to taking a photograph of myself all tucked in. My face was lookin' crazy, though. So I cropped it out. ]

I was never one to tuck in my shirt until recently. See, I don't really have the body for tucking in, or so I've been told. I have an hourglass figure of sorts, which sounds great, but I'm still chubby (the photo above is quite flattering thanks to the high-waisted skirt hiding my ample tummy). This has meant, since forever, that tucking my shirt into my skirt is forbidden. That's what my mother always told me, that it just didn't look right. It didn't look good. And no one wants to look not good, right?

Over winter break, I decided to buy a tulle tu-tu style skirt. I had all these ideas for it, but most of them included wearing it with my shirt tucked in. I left the store without it at first, settled on the fact that I'd never be able to wear it the way I wanted to, but later that evening I went back, bought the thing, and stored in my closet for a daring day. I would try wear it around my room every once in awhile when no one was around, experimenting with tops, tights, and cardigans until I felt bold enough to wear it out in public.

That was the beginning of the end. Now, I have at least three skirts I only wear with my tank or tee secured under the waistband. And even though I usually find myself strutting around in front of the mirror, I sometimes feel a little nervous heading out into the public eye. What if I really am too big for tucking? Will people stare? Will I look like a frumpy floral sack of potatoes?

When it all comes down to it, though, I've realized one thing:

I don't really care.

For me, tucking in is a declaration of don't-give-a-fuck, if you will. I think I look great, thanks, and no one can tell me otherwise. When my mother questioned my outfit the other day I said "I think this looks good" and didn't change a thing. I love the way it accentuates my small waist and the way it makes me feel like swinging my hips as I walk. And even if some other style be more flattering, it wouldn't empower me nearly as much. When I tuck in, I remember my body is beautiful and I don't have to play it down a bit.

Call me a rebel, but I love breaking the rules.

What fashion rules do you love to break?


Dawn said...

I really love this outfit, and you aren't 'too big' to wear it. I hate that phrase 'too big'- VOM! I think regardless of weight, hourglasses look fabulous with tucked-in tops.

As for me, I break all the petite rules of wearing one monotonous line of colour to make me look taller, wear heels to look taller and wear short skirts to look taller! I don't want to look taller as I quite like looking tiny.

Kelly said...

You know, I think the height of the waist makes all the difference when tucking things in. Anything even kind of low-rise is just a recipe for gut emphasis on me. But if the waist is just a little higher, like at my belly button or a touch lower, I think it highlights my waist. So almost every bottom I own is strictly for tucking in or not tucking in - few can handle both.

Vanessa said...

Dawn: Maybe I should've clarified-- but that's not me. I was going to put a photo of myself but I was rushing to do a bunch of things and didn't have time to, like, look decent enough to take a picture.

Kelly: I love high waist when it comes to skirts! I think super-high-waisted pants are scary, though. I don't think I'd be able to pull it off.

Laells said...

You are definitely not too 'big' to wear an outfit like that.

If anything I think that it plays up your curves in a big way.

I think you might really like belts and stuff like that too.

I like breaking the plus size rule of not wearing patterned clothes. Bullcrap. One of my favourite and most complimented shirts is patterned.

I think you could pull of something high waisted though. Also pairing something high waisted with a belt helps draw everyone's eye to the narrowest part of your body and basically just ends up emphasizing your awesome hourglass. Imo of course. :)

Anyways. It's a really cute outfit and you should proudly wear it in public!

amanda said...

I very rarely tuck my tops in, and when I do, it's always into a high-waisted skirt.

Your outfit is super-cute!

AJ said...

Good for you! I think you look fabulous - you have an amazing figure. Sometimes I think mothers are just programmed to say things like that - they don't really mean it. If it makes you feel good then go for it!



Zmaga said...

You look great in it! You're a girl, you're supposed to have waist and hips.

Amanda said...

I adore the look of tops tucked into skirts! I also love, love, love stripes, skinny jeans, and belting things, and I am not a slim girl. I don't think "too big" is really ever an issue in fashion, you can pull almost anything off if you've got the confidence. Wear whatever makes you feel good and work it!

Dawn said...

I like your actual outfit even more. :-)

Kelly said...

I just saw that you updated your picture and uh...lady you were BORN to tuck in! This outfit looks amazing on you.


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